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Monday, October 31, 2011


I've decided to dress up a little and go out tonight. There's absolutely nothing to do anywhere near here, even for Halloween, but  I bought a pretty mask a few weeks ago and dammit I'm going to wear it! Even if it's only to go to Taco Bell or Walmart lol.

Then I'll be renting Scream 4 (yay free rental!) to finish my Scream marathon, try to watch RHPS with the husband, and then ritual and divination time! I'll try to get in Monday's first week correspondences, too.

I might post some pictures of my altar, "costume," and the like later, as well. Now I'm off to copy my ritual for tonight in one place (it's on like four separate pages right now lol) and start dinner. Yummy pumpkin soup, followed by my awesome pumpkin pie bread.

Blessed Samhain!

I'm sure there are billions of blog posts and videos and the like popping up all over the place, but I'm abstaining from posting about rituals, lore, etc. this year. Maybe next year I'll do something for each Sabbat, but this year I've been working on creating my own rituals and the like, and I just didn't have time.

Speaking of rituals... I rarely, and I mean VERY rarely do a ritual. I don't even observe all the Sabbats. But, Samhain has always been very special to me, so this year I'm going all out. I've just spent the past 2 hours or so working on my ritual (between baking my pumpkin pie bread and watching horror movies lol) and I'm still not satisfied. I'm just not much of a ritual person. I understand and respect their purpose, but I have to really feel a strong pull to actually sit down and write out a ritual and then do it. And even when I do do that, I usually end up improvising here and there because my already written down actions and words just don't feel quite right in the moment.

And I don't know if it's the energy of this time of year (which always seems to energize me and "recharge my batteries) or what, but I have been in super "edit and revise BOS" mode the past few days. Maybe it's because my awesome Ravenclaw quill and the ink I ordered are now on their way to me, though, so I'll be starting my "permanent" BOS soon, yay! I don't care if you guys think I'm a total nerd/geek/etc. for my love of Harry Potter, those books got me through my childhood and they are very special to me. So, I will be posting a small blog when I get my quill, showing it off. Then, when I start writing in my beautiful BOS (<click to see the blog post) my husband got me for Mother's Day, I'll show it off again, too.

Ok, I'm rambling now, so I should probably cut this off now. I just wanted to write and wish everyone a blessed Samhain. If you've posted a blog about Samhain and you'd like me to link to it, feel free to comment with the link. Or, feel free to share anything you'd like to about Samhain (what your plans were/are, how you celebrated, etc.), I'd love to hear from you!

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Sunday Correspondences: Week 1

Sunday is "the day of the sun." By the relationship of the Sun to the God, the energies of Sundays are masculine in nature. Sundays are good days for "me" time. When you think about the Sun and it's light shining on you, what comes to mind? Sundays brings the solar energies into our lives and some correspondences for the energy of Sundays are light, leadership and success, warmth, personal growth, anything that would be used for achieving some personal goals. Some ideas for magickal work on Sundays could be for sticking to a goal you set for yourself, seeking a promotion at work, healing, or seeking recognition for a job well done.  The planetary symbol for Sunday is: http://www.sorcerers-apprentice.co.uk/sunplanetsign1.gif

The metal associated with Sunday is gold and some color associations are: gold, yellow, bright shades of orange, yellow-orange, amber and bright pink.

Saturday Correspondences: Week 1

Today I'm starting my "correspondences" series with the last day of the week. Sorry this is going up so late, I hurt my neck Saturday morning and let me tell you, trying to type and read when you can only hold your head at roughly a 90 degree angle, leaned over your right shoulder, is not easy lol. Anyway...

Real shocker, Saturday was named for the planet and God Saturn. Saturn (God) is the Roman God of agriculture and farming,  sowing seeds and the like, basically. He ruled over what was known as the "Golden Age" of peace, abundance, good stuff. (Yes, I know I'm skimming over a lot and not giving a full bio on Saturn, but He's not the main subject of this post.) He was also dubbed "Father Time," and his Greek equivalent is considered to be the Titan Kronos.

So, we've already covered two correspondences for Saturday: Saturn the God and Saturn the planet. The planetary symbol for Saturn/Saturday is: http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/4/46/Saturn_symbol.png

Saturdays are a good time for ridding negativity from your life (whether it be getting rid of debts, breaking bad habits, bindings, or anything else), protection magick, and tying up loose ends. Saturday is the last day of the week, so it's a good time for ending things. In Ellen Dugan's Book of Witchery, she described Saturdays as a "magickal 'let's clean house' day," and I think that captures the theme beautifully.

As a side note, Ellen  also assigned Hekate to Saturday as one of the Deities. Having worked with Hekate as my "Matron Goddess," for lack of a better term, for several years, I have to agree that Saturdays definitely suit Her best. I won't go into more details about Deities here because this entry would be far too long, but one of the upcoming Saturdays will be devoted to a better "bio" of Saturn and Hekate (and any other Deities I think would suit Saturday magick).

For the final correspondences this week for Saturday, I'll go with colors. Now, I personally feel that it's better to decide for yourself what colors are good for what purposes and the like, but if you're having trouble and need inspiration, looking at correspondences assigned by others can help you get started.

The colors associated with Saturday are darker colors, such as: black, deep purple, brown, blue, gray, and indigo.

Friday, October 28, 2011

Back to Basics

There's a reason for the Wiccan "Year and a Day" schedule of learning. It's not that you can learn everything in one year and one day, but it's a set time frame of study to help those who follow it ease into things and make sure that they really know the basics before moving on.

I've ranted to friends before about there being so many Wicca/Witchcraft 101 books, and how boring it is to constantly read the description of an athame, or the purpose of circle casting, etc. But there's a hell of a lot more to the basics than just knowing what tools are used for what purpose (some of us don't even really use tools). I've been re-reading Book of Witchery by Ellen Dugan (see my Books page for link and info, and other books) and I have to agree with something I was reading last night. Too many of us don't really take the time to learn basic correspondences, to have them stored away in our memory instead of constantly flipping through books looking for them. I don't think that for every Witch it's necessary to know all the basic correspondences, but it's definitely handy to at least know by heart the ones you will use frequently.

Daily correspondences goes beyond just planets and the best spells to work each day. There are stones, metals, flowers, plants, Deities, tarot cards and more. I've been guilty of not really memorizing correspondences myself and I could definitely stand to know more by heart. So, for the next few weeks I think I'm going to do daily posts about correspondences. Maybe 2-3 a day or so. I'll still be doing blogs as well, but I think this is something important that isn't stressed enough in some 101 books. Sure, the info is there, but isn't it easier to know, without flipping through a book, some basic correspondences you might  need for a spell? I think so, so this "Correspondences" segment is for me as well as for you.

The Witch's Circle: Commitment

This is a response to the first discussion for "The Witch's Circle" from the blog The Deepest Well (<click to visit).

I found Paganism at a very young age. I had been raised in a strict, Christian home and taught that there were NO other religions, period. I lived in a very rural area with more churches than you could count and no diversity. When I was 8, I moved and from my new school I met a girl who would become my best friend and whose family would introduce me to Paganism (specifically Wicca and Witchcraft).

Granted, at that age I couldn't FULLY grasp every detail of the new religion I felt so drawn to, but I feel that I got the gist of it. Not to make myself seem arrogant or anything, but by 5th grade I was reading and comprehending what I read on a college level. I understood more than enough to know that I had found something wonderful, something that really and truly felt "right" for me. Looking back, I'm not sure if it's really accurate to say that my interest  in Paganism began with Wicca. I was always drawn to the Greek Gods and Goddesses, and to this day I still am. But, I suppose my "formal" introduction came through my Wiccan friend and her mother.

I continued to study Wicca for several years, even after moving back in with the Christian family members who had raised me for those first 8 years. In my early teen years, I experienced a lot of internal conflict between wanting to be the person my family wanted me to be and wanting to follow my heart. Thus began my experimentation with forging my own path. I believed in the ancient Gods and Goddesses, but I also believed in the Christian God, Mary, etc. I didn't believe that either was superior to the other, though. I felt that they all had their place and that no path was the "one and only path." Because of this internal conflict and various other factors, I experimented with Christian Witchcraft. Anyone who likes can feel free to disagree with me on this and say whatever you like, but this is MY personal belief which stems from nearly a decade (at that point in my life) of studying different things. Based on what I had learned about the Bible and translations, changes, etc., I believed (and still believe) that it is more than possible to be a Christian AND a Witch. Christian Wiccan, not so much. I believe that you can be Wiccan with a Christian influence, but I'm not sure how I feel about blending two religions. I also need to point out that I do not view Witchcraft as a religion. I view it as a practice/craft/way of life which can be blended into any religion, or lack of religion.

Moving on...

Obviously Christian Witchcraft didn't work out for me. I tried it, it didn't feel wrong, but it didn't feel perfect, either. So, we fast forward to me at 17/18. I was a recent high school graduate, new college student, and about to become a newlywed. I finally saw the light at the end of the tunnel and something clicked inside me. I knew what was right for me and I began my journey down the path of a Pagan Witch once more. I studied for almost 2 years, and then when I was 19 (or nearly 19) I formally dedicated myself to my Path and only my Path. I started off with Wicca, following what I knew and felt comfortable with, but after a few months I realized it was too narrow for me. I then considered myself "Eclectic" and took bits from here and there and began to really make my own path.

Within Paganism, I don't think it's appropriate to ever say that you must choose between two things, or that you have to give up something to commit to something else. To me, that's like saying that you have to give up print books when you receive an eReader. No one, in my opinion, can tell someone else what they can and can not believe and do with their own life.

But, I do believe that if you're going to consider yourself a Pagan (or anything else) you do need to commit to it. Whether it's Wicca, Druidry, Asatru, or any other path (including one you create), you need to fully believe in it and feel that it's right for you. Religion is not an article of clothing that you can take off and put back on whenever you like, it's serious and should be treated thus (in my opinion). If you believe that a certain religion and Witchcraft can not co-exist, then it's illogical to consider yourself a Witch of that religion.

So I suppose it comes down to this: I gave up my former religion formally (at least to me). I came from a Christian family and it didn't feel right for me, so I found something that did feel right. I wasn't searching, I didn't know TO search. In a way I suppose it found me. I've studied various religions since learning about Paganism, and I feel confident saying that my path is the right path. For me. However, I have a close friend that I've known for half my life who is a Christian and a Witch. That's a whole other story and I think I have a blog post about it somewhere on here. I think that when you come from one religious background, and then discover a new path later in life, you don't have to abandon everything, but you can. Or, you can use morals or anything else that feels right to you within the path you choose.

Thursday, October 27, 2011

If you ask for my advice, I'm going to give it to you

I've had people ask me for advice that's related to something Pagan or Witchy and then turn around and go off on me because I wasn't quoting a Wicca 101 book to them. Really? You just picked up a copy of a Cunningham book for the first time a week ago and you think you already have your own path forged and know EVERYTHING? I know that time and experience are two totally different things. You can hold Pagan beliefs for your entire life and still not know as much as someone who has experienced more. But really? Someone asks for my help with something they've never encountered before, but I have, and then they say that I'm doing it wrong? I don't care if someone likes my advice, or takes it and uses it, etc., but if you ASK ME to HELP YOU and then get mad because I'm not pulling stuff out of a book, that's ridiculous in my opinion. 

This goes back to books vs. experience. You can read 500 Pagan/Witchy books but it doesn't compare to actual experience. Why do I think I know this? Because I read about 50 books or more over the course of almost 10 years before I experienced much of anything. I didn't read one book, or one blog, etc. and decide I was a Witch and I was ready to start casting spells left and right. I did a few small rituals during that time, but not much more. When I finally DID trust myself to be ready for spells, they worked and I felt confident. After casting spells and doing all sorts of other "Witchy" stuff for a few years, I felt that I had learned 10 times more than what I learned from reading books.

So if you think you're ready to deal with everything after reading one book, more power to you, but I personally don't feel that it's enough to learn all you need to know. So if you come to me for advice and I say try "this" or "that," and you haven't read it in your one Pagan/Wiccan/Witchcraft book, that's probably because I've tried several different methods and found a way that works for ME and that's what I'm recommending. That doesn't mean I'm wrong, it just means that I've been doing this for a while and I've created my own methods. I suggest you do the same thing. Books are wonderful, but from my personal experience and what I've heard from other Pagans and Witches, things that other people have written are less likely to work as well for you as something you created yourself. You don't have to do it my way, you don't have to do it the way a book tells you (or anyone else). But I encourage everyone to try different things to find what works for them.

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Witch, NOT Wiccan

I want to start by saying that I have NOTHING against Wicca or Wiccans, before someone jumps on the title of this post and thinks I'm bashing Wicca/Wiccans. I'm NOT!

Wicca is one "branch" of Paganism. If you don't know what Wicca is, there are countless resources to learn about it, this isn't a post to tell you what Wicca is (actually I think I did a post similar to that a while back). Within Wicca, there are certain beliefs that are held by most practitioners, just like within Christianity or any other "formal" religion. Sure there are Eclectics, Gardnerians, Alexandrians, Seax, Dianics, and tons of other forms of Wicca, but that's not the point. One key belief in Wicca is from the Rede, "An it harm none, do what ye will," (which depending on where you read the Rede may vary in the exact wording). Now I'm all for not doing harm to others intentionally, for no good reason. I'm not going to sit down and think up curses/hexes/etc. for every person I've ever disliked or something. However, I am NOT a Wiccan. I believe that there are situations where "bringing in the big guns" is necessary and that you could and should do whatever it takes to protect yourself and your family.

I do believe in karma, but I think that karma is unbiased, just, etc. I don't think that if someone is trying to pin me down and hurt me and I kick the shit out of them, that sometime down the line I'm going to have a karmic bitchslap for defending myself.Likewise, I don't think that putting forth any protective measures necessary to ensure my safety and well-being, as well as that of my family, is going to lead to me suffering. If someone tried to hurt my family, or me, or anyone else I care deeply for, they're going to regret it. I am not afraid to hex or curse if I've tried other things with no luck. I am a Witch, I do not follow the "rules" of the Wiccan religion. I follow my own moral compass with things. I'm not saying that if someone called my daughter a name that I would curse them. Sure that might be emotionally difficult for her, but more than likely I would just do something to help her not be hurt when people do things like that. Now, if someone started stalking her I would go to more drastic measures. I would never START with a hex or curse, but if it came to that, I wouldn't hesitate (except to make sure that was what I wanted to do, and prepare). I'm willing to deal with any repercussions for my actions.

This is another thing I've been attacked for in the past. I really don't care, you do your thing and I'll do mine. But it's usually people assuming (there's that word again) that all Witches are Wiccan, all Pagans are Witches and Wiccans, etc. We're not! And we don't ALL share the same beliefs about things. If you think curses and hexes and the like are wrong, great! Don't do them! If you don't think they're wrong, that's great, too! Follow YOUR heart and YOUR intuition, not what others say or do.

Paganism, Witchcraft, and the Paranormal

Maybe it's just me and maybe I'm being a bit overly critical of people, but it bugs me when people automatically assume that ALL Pagans and Witches can sense ghosts, are interested in ghost hunting, know how to deal with them, etc. Sure, maybe a lot of us do (hell, maybe even most), but not all. How do I know this? Because I've had other Pagans and Witches come to me for advice on the matter. Just because you're Pagan or a Witch doesn't mean you suddenly develop an extra sense. Everyone has it, in my opinion, it's just that some people (Pagan, Witch, or other) use it more often than other people.

It's stereotypes like that that bug me. To me, it's right up there with assuming that all Pagans or Witches know how to do anything else, or that we all practice the same way. We're all different, just like everyone else lol. Some of us believe curses/hexes/etc. are strictly off limits, some of us don't. Some of us can sense a presence more acutely than others, some of us can't.

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Soooo.... Uuuhhh...

My brain is kind of off tonight and I couldn't think of a snazzy title ;-) Basically this is just a random post of things I've been thinking about over the past few days while pouring over ideas for my blog and Youtube channel. Here's what I've come up with...

I think that instead of pressuring myself to ALWAYS do my best to blog only about Pagan/Witchy related things, I'm just going to write posts when an idea strikes me for something I want to talk about. Anyone have a problem with that? (See end of post for other questions posed to you, the reader!)

With that earth shattering announcement out of the way (lol), I'll move on to some other things.

If anyone is on Pottermore's beta site, or planning to join Pottermore when registration opens to everyone, I'm in Ravenclaw and my screen name is EyeNight165, so feel free to add me on there! I'm a total Potterhead, as I think I've already mentioned lol.

For those who have seen my BOS and liked it, Mystic Moon Media (the shop I bought it from on Etsy) is currently having a huge clearance sale on those large journal/BOS books that she makes, so check out her site if you're interested.

I ordered a Ravenclaw quill the other day and I can't wait to get it. I'm going to post pictures when it comes.

Keep your fingers crossed for me that my husband's insurance paperwork was processed in time for me to be covered because I really need to see a doctor soon about an issue that has come up. Hopefully it's nothing, but given family history and the like, it might not be nothing.

I had an idea for an Etsy shop (or something similar) a few days ago, and I'm thinking about eventually trying to put it together if I ever get motivated to work on some stuff for it. If I decide it isn't a totally pointless idea, I'll post updates eventually.

As for my Pagan/Witchy themed posts, I'm considering adding things like my personal beliefs about some things (magick, spells, deities, reincarnation, karma, Sabbats, etc.). Is anyone interested in that? How about things dealing with home making and the like? We have a household binder that I created, so I could do a post about creating your own, as well as things like cleaners for the home (and empowering them for a magickal purpose), crystal and stone usages and where they can be placed in your home for certain purposes, I'm considering writing a few short children's Pagan/Witchy stories and links to useful Pagan family sites, and more. What do you think? Any other suggestions for things you'd like to see? Anything you DON'T want to see posts about?

Until next time, I hope you're all well and blessed greatly!

Saturday, October 22, 2011

Harry Potter and other Fantasy Rant

Hey guys, first of all please keep me in your thoughts or light a candle or send good vibes or  something. I just got some scary news, but I'm not sure about everything yet so I'll update when I know more. Right now it's nothing to be super worried about, but it could easily turn to something bad.

With that out of the way...

I am sick of other Pagans and Witches having a "holier than thou," "I'm right, you're wrong," "It's my way or no way," kind of attitude. Yes, I am a total "Potterhead" an I LOVE fantasy! That, however, does NOT make me less of a Pagan or a Witch! Tastes in literature, movies, or any other form of entertainment do not necessarily influence someone's spirituality or anything else. Not being able to distinguish between fantasy/fiction and reality is when you have a problem. I was already on the Pagan path when I first read the Harry Potter books. I knew what was real and what wasn't. Harry Potter is entertainment, it isn't real. Does that mean that I should NEVER read or watch something that I enjoy simply because it doesn't paint a realistic picture of Witchcraft?

I think it's sad that so many of us take more criticism from other Pagans and Witches than from any other group of people.By all means stick to your beliefs and do what makes YOU happy, but leave everyone else alone and let them do the same!

Monday, October 3, 2011

I've hit a wall

First I want to apologize for being MIA for so long. It's been a bad time for us, between things going wrong nearly every day, internet going out on and off for a few weeks, we've all been sick a few times, etc. 

Besides all of that, I've also hit a sort of "wall" as far as ideas for blog posts goes. I feel like there are many things I want to say, but it's just not coming to me right now. That being said, please comment if you would like to see a blog post about something, anything. I'm serious about that lol, I'll take any suggestions right now because I think having one idea might get my "creative juices" flowing again. I had an idea a while back to do a post about simple altars, featuring a lady I know from CafeMom because I fell in LOVE with her simple, yet elegant, altar. I will probably do that soon, but I'm looking for new topics as well, so let me know if you're interested in my thoughts about things, or how I do something, etc.

Hopefully something will come to me soon, but please leave any ideas, don't  be shy!