I want to start by saying that I have NOTHING against Wicca or Wiccans, before someone jumps on the title of this post and thinks I'm bashing Wicca/Wiccans. I'm NOT!
Wicca is one "branch" of Paganism. If you don't know what Wicca is, there are countless resources to learn about it, this isn't a post to tell you what Wicca is (actually I think I did a post similar to that a while back). Within Wicca, there are certain beliefs that are held by most practitioners, just like within Christianity or any other "formal" religion. Sure there are Eclectics, Gardnerians, Alexandrians, Seax, Dianics, and tons of other forms of Wicca, but that's not the point. One key belief in Wicca is from the Rede, "An it harm none, do what ye will," (which depending on where you read the Rede may vary in the exact wording). Now I'm all for not doing harm to others intentionally, for no good reason. I'm not going to sit down and think up curses/hexes/etc. for every person I've ever disliked or something. However, I am NOT a Wiccan. I believe that there are situations where "bringing in the big guns" is necessary and that you could and should do whatever it takes to protect yourself and your family.
I do believe in karma, but I think that karma is unbiased, just, etc. I don't think that if someone is trying to pin me down and hurt me and I kick the shit out of them, that sometime down the line I'm going to have a karmic bitchslap for defending myself.Likewise, I don't think that putting forth any protective measures necessary to ensure my safety and well-being, as well as that of my family, is going to lead to me suffering. If someone tried to hurt my family, or me, or anyone else I care deeply for, they're going to regret it. I am not afraid to hex or curse if I've tried other things with no luck. I am a Witch, I do not follow the "rules" of the Wiccan religion. I follow my own moral compass with things. I'm not saying that if someone called my daughter a name that I would curse them. Sure that might be emotionally difficult for her, but more than likely I would just do something to help her not be hurt when people do things like that. Now, if someone started stalking her I would go to more drastic measures. I would never START with a hex or curse, but if it came to that, I wouldn't hesitate (except to make sure that was what I wanted to do, and prepare). I'm willing to deal with any repercussions for my actions.
This is another thing I've been attacked for in the past. I really don't care, you do your thing and I'll do mine. But it's usually people assuming (there's that word again) that all Witches are Wiccan, all Pagans are Witches and Wiccans, etc. We're not! And we don't ALL share the same beliefs about things. If you think curses and hexes and the like are wrong, great! Don't do them! If you don't think they're wrong, that's great, too! Follow YOUR heart and YOUR intuition, not what others say or do.